Adults Benefit From Being Responsible
When Men and Women Take Responsibility for Their Lives
Jun 14, 2009
Bernard Shaw said, “Liberty means responsibility. That is why most men dread it.”
In the book, The Art of Allowing, the angel consciousness named Abraham states that whatever people focus on tends to increase. What people focus on draws specific experiences, situations, health conditions and relationships into their lives. This might be difficult to accept, especially for people who have spent years believing that life was just happening to them.
However, because no one can climb inside another person’s head and control their thoughts, so called “victims” and “dependent” persons must first grant someone their permission to control them.
Former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt once said that, “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.” The bottom line is that akin to the way a person climbs inside their car and steers it until it’s moving in the direction they want it to go in, each individual is responsible for what happens in their adult life.
Positive Thoughts and Action Lead to Responsible Living
For example, a student who wants to graduate from high school or college with honors would do well to speak the language of academic excellence to herself. Students can do this by telling themselves that they are wise, highly intelligent and academically sharp. They can tell themselves that they have a magnificent memory and readily know how to dissect information gathered from textbooks and classroom lectures.
Each time negative or opposing thoughts enter their head students can arrest then reverse the thoughts by repeating positive self-talk about their certain academic excellence. The process will be strengthened when students follow their positive thoughts up with action. They can do this by arriving to class on time, completing their homework assignments to the best of their ability and visiting the library and studying. That is being responsible.
Inner Change and Responsibility
The reason many do not choose to be responsible for their thoughts and actions is because they fear having to make inner change. It is easier to avoid taking responsibility for one’s own life by blaming gender, prejudice, racism, physique, financial status, education, supervisors, parents, teachers, spouses or children for a current state than it is to admit that to change external life situations, one has to first change on the inside.
The Inter Change Cycle Series notes that each person goes through six cycles before a change is complete. These changes are internal and can be known or measured by how a person feels as they continue to move forward through change into newness and away from old ways of thinking and being. The six cycles are loss, doubt, discomfort, discovery, understanding then finally integration.
The hard truth is that individuals that choose not to be responsible for their own thoughts, actions and lives, the people who believe that someone else is controlling the outcome of their life, will continue to feel frustrated. Adults who allow fear of success or failure to keep them from choosing to be responsible might always be broke, in and out of failed relationships, going from one place of worship to another, seeking out therapists and paying them enormous sums of money simply to have the therapist convince them that they are failing because of something their mother said 10 or 20 years ago.
Personal Responsibility Takes Courage
Responsibility takes courage. It is the thing champions are made of. As an individual becomes increasingly aware of her thoughts, she can begin to focus her attention in the direction that she wants to see her life moving in. Men who marry their positive thoughts with action often see better results than men who only think about doing well or men who only repeat positive affirmations. The more people see the direct connection of their thoughts to their actions and feelings, the sooner they will realize that they are and always have, in truth, been responsible for their own life.
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